When All Else Fails There Still is Hope     She exclaimed in a hushed voice "I Never thought My Child would turn out like this!" Too many times on a given day this same scenario and almost same words are spoken by countless thousands even millions of Mothers Fathers concerned Family and Friends about children they know or of other children known to them The World is a Shocking Place ... Does Your Child know the Facts Everyday in News Papers TV News over the Radio and Internet the countless stories of Missing or Lost Children ... Stories of Drug Overdoses Alcohol Abuse Youth Violence Youth Dis-enchantment all stories of Children that seem like stories of a World that is not ours ... they are merely others problems ... not ours as we try to shield ourselves ... so much so action is never taken to help our children our future leaders That is until it happens to us a family member a friend or we read or hear a tragic incident whereby a child is hurt raped maimed or even killed do we maybe feel emotion to take action ...Ask Yourself does your child know you care ...does your Home Offer a Safe Enviroment Have You Built the Wall that Makes You Feel Safe   The Wall being in such a manner is called ... We have been Desensitized to the extent that it effects our emotions to act pro-actively ... better yet as an excuse we use the terms  " I Want To Be a Friend to My Child " ... " I Don't Want to Use Corporal Punishment Methods " ... better yet how about ... "I Don't Want to be like My Parents with Discipline or Rules" ... Yes All 3 are Great! ... in fact We encourage the Non Corporal Approach ...though truly ask yourself have You taken the time to know Your Child or Children ... or have You as already said Desensitized yourself to believe all will turn out as it should be ... Called the Wall that we use the other excuses They are Acting Like a Normal Child/Teen They will Grow out of this Phase with Time They already know My Beliefs and Principles Well now is the Times to sit down and truly ask ... Do I Truly Know My Child? Did You notice at the Top When All Else Fails There Still is Hope now ask Yourself did this message draw you to read this far? ... Or truly was it the Graphic Picture of Handcuffs ... Well truthfully both were intended to grab your attention ... The Handcuffs signifying also a Parents Worst Nightmare ... You see sometimes like Attention Grabbing Headlines as well as Graphic Pictures  the use of these act as a Wakeup Call The Wakeup call being never Assume as in if You are Assuming all is Ok it can backfire and as was taught to the majority of Us Making an ... Ass of U and Me ... because maybe just maybe You haven't been doing Your Job as a Parent your assuming all is OK ... Some times a Child also has to be shocked with a Wake Up call also  and No we're not talking Donkey's here and it is not a Put Down either ... it's using a Simple Technique called word association to use as an example of how All of Us do sometimes get off track in life ... We Assume The School are Teaching your Child all the Power Tools to Succeed The School is Conducive to Your Childs Well Being with No Threats The School Teachers Hall Monitors Security Forces are Keeping Your Child away from others that can Harm their Positive Outlook Your Child is the Perfect Child so has No Problems Your Child is Smart Intelligent and Well Liked Now Hopefully You can see Assume  encompasses a whole new meaning We Know there are Excuses ... It is Not My Fault! My House is in a Good Neighborhood the School isn't ... I didn't know the Boundaries (Even Good Schools have Negative Influences ... Sometimes called ...Well they are only acting as Spoiled Brats) My Child Needs a Friend sure they may seem like a Bad Kid it's only a phase My Child is in need of a place to go and their friend is in a Bad Neighborhood it's not the Kids fault! Gee if I let the Kids come to My House it will make it alright I am a Cool Parent I understand kids ... they'd never do that here I Work a lot ... My Child knows how to take care of Themself ... I Trust Them Now is Time to Ask Yourself? ... What Positive Influence Do You Contribute? Now ask Yourself does Your Child truly have Reading and Educational Skills they need? are they even at Grade level in? What are the Type Kids they associate with ... Do these Kids Challenge Yours to be a better person? ( *even kids in bad neighborhoods excel in education so as to escape the enviroment they are in ... fact also being they can act normal they have had manners instilled in them ... even majority have parents even if single parents that instill family values does your child know these facts?* ) Do they choose Good Friends Does Your Child have Simple Guidelines (Notice Word Guidelines -Not Rules) to follow such as what are Deemed for Society as Common Rules of Decency ... Common Courtesy not Rules made in Today's Times though are Guidelines passed down in say the 10 Commandments even as the Golden Rule ... "treat others as you would like to be treated." ...both based disregarding say the religious factor merely if read in context ways to have a Life based in with Positive Principles ... as stated Guidelines Not as Rules ... whereby this is stated as sometimes Rules can be construed as to be broken not as instilled to promote positive in life ... Does Your Child have knowledge of Guidelines or positive outlook from not only these or how about historical events people who have molded our Humanitarian Principles in the world as we see it today How about  Guidelines for Non Abusive Behavior Non Abusive Language and Non Negative Mannerism in Dress so as not to draw attention to themselves so as not to be prior judged merely by their appearance their language their attitude Ask Yourself now here is a personal question that sometimes by it's truth hurts ... can your child be considered as a Bad Influence on Others ... What Tools of Living in Society have You contributed to Your Child ... Have You led by example ... Better Question would be  have You merely said ... "Live by What I Say! ... Not by What I Do!" ...Do You Yourself Your Family even the Friends you have constitute a Positive Outlook on Life ... Question being here How Does Your Own Child View You?  Now You May be saying ... Hey I Am a Good Parent I Don't Need this The Question now is ... How many times do You convey the image your really not listening to what your child says ... better yet can you not be contributing to your child's beliefs in a Negative Mannerism ask yourself these Questions how many times do you say Hey I have heard this before You Don't have to Remind Me! Hey I Got it ... Your Sounding just like ------- ... I Don't Need to Hear This Hey Right Now I Don't Have Time ... Can We Talk about this later ... then never getting back to it Well They Were Just Constantly Arguing I didn't have time for it ... You know merely changing the Word Argue to Discussion you can open a Line of Communication Argue gives a wording of Negative Aspects whereas Discussion promotes a Positive Value ... Meaning Parties involved can in future Open up Lines of Communication to discuss ways to improve ... it promotes a 2 way line not as a 1 way the word Argue does ... Remember Argue also invokes visions of a Person who is being obstinate ... stubborn ... negative ... non contributing therefore Parties involved as in statement Arguing ... both feel possibly slighted and neither side truly heard ... the simple example is ignorant people argue whereas intelligent people discuss a positive outcome Ask Yourself how many times have you merely said "I Am Sorry" to quail a situation ... or how many times have you not taken into account actual time it takes before You walk out of a Room ( Sometimes in amazement might find was mere minutes ) Ask Yourself if Leaving a Room to many times what message have you taught your child except it is alright to run from even the simplest conversation have you also not taught them You are not and never will be open for Discussion ... You are also Not a Person to come to in a True Crisis or possibly for even a Simple Hug even a Verbal Reprimand that can be construed as only Creative Critism to make them a better Person ... Yes even an occasional critism can be constructive if your child knows it is given as a Positive Message ... Correct this and Others will see the Good in You ... Also Believe in Yourself and You can Accomplish almost anything you set out to do Now Ask Yourself have you not heard the above before? Now ask has Your Child? We sometimes have to remember and remind ourselves as the above Guidelines do that Society is truly dictated by what we are taught ... Guidelines as well as Lines of Communication between Parents and Children aren't merely just a God Given Gift that comes in a form of a Telepathic Message in nature and taken as Granted Pass all thoughts or wisdom will be passed onto your child by mere thoughts You see even if Positive in nature that all will be Ok and if You merely accept Life as it is Daily thrown at you is truly nothing else can do you will not only be selling yourself short and also your child... it truly is understanding you both must work as a Team together or as a Family unit either if both Parents are involved or being a Single Parent whether it is a Single child or a Family consisting of Brothers and Sisters Life is truly about Helping each other ... knowing how to have Communication ... Never as priorly stated Assume there isn't room for growth or even that true trust has been established or even your Child knows who you are or you know them ... it is a Daily Challenge to be the Best We can be for ourself as well as our child and also visa versa whereby your child learns to talk and communicate called as said Teamwork does a True Family unit get established I Have tried Teamwork and I Feel Like Failed where does that Get Me? The true answer what does it get me? ... Well simply put the failure may simply be ... If your wanting a reward a payback something tangible in return then your truly not grasping Parenthood is not about what it gets for you ... it is truly how have you given the tools your child needs to succeed in life ... Step back and ask ... When was the last time you truly asked your child ... What is it in Life You Want to be? ( Doctor Lawyer Artist even Garbage Person) What are Your Hopes Dreams and Aspirations? (Riches Wealth or even be Poor)  How Do You View the World? ( Positive or Negative is there Hope or even No Hope) How is Wealth Created what does it take to Get where You want to be How Do You View Yourself (Motivated or even Lazy by Nature) You see now if the Right Question is asked you spark a line of Communication a 1st step to obtaining the Rewards that are of value to your child ... Called Building Blocks to as we say 1. Have a Dream 2. Make a Plan 3. Work Your Plan ... Then Make Your Dream a Reality ... You see when a Child works with a Parent in a Positive Force to obtaining a Goal ... both as a Team are Rewarded not solely the One Sided ... Well What Does that Get for Me ... The Kids that learn this from their Parents will be as many examples today have shown Us have a Lifetime of Family Memories though as maybe now the Rewards to be seen aren't known as each Goal is obtained as in Building Blocks ... Warning being Build to a Positive Nature not Just the Most Current Fast or Hot Current Sold item ... Electronic items become dated within Months ...T Shirts  ...Clothes  Wear Out ... Posters CD's DVD's only at best collect Dust unless truly save them as future collectibles meaning think wisely is it a reward or merely a status symbol ... ask again does it dictate your child's life to have them just for that Establish something that taken in the Future Big Picture relates as how your child views themself as an Adult ... using the example Rock Star say a Guitar with Music Lessons ... A Model say Modeling Classes though in both not just given ... Have them research it let them learn the costs the true roads to success stories in other words teach them to work within the means of your Family Budget and contribute to it ... Then together obtain the ways means and methods to accomplish the goal set out as a Family to achieve the outcome ... will be amazed the success stories of even the poorest families working as a Team accomplished feats never imagined Nascar even  Moto Cross has some great stories as well as other Family Team Outside Sports a Family Weekend Fun thing turned into a Family Built Race Team look also as Well to the Entertainment Field (Be amazed the Parents behind famous celebrities)... The Internet has information to about any form of research You may need ... Hey The Internet as a Family Project could even be Fun with Affiliate Marketing ... Might be hard Imagining Your Child as a Future President CEO CFO of their Own Internet Company though amazing how many under 25 Millionaires the internet has made and for little or near no investment ... Yeah it may take years 3 to 5 Years even more to establish an Internet Presence ... though starting today building Block by Block You may even see what We have Today that You are Reading a Message of Hope ... Life is truly how You View Your World ... Do You see Only Negative ... Does Your Child? Stand back and envision this picture ... More Money has Been Made in Entertainment and Publishing ... Then in any other Profession in the World ... Merely with the Magic of Voicing Your Opinion and putting it into Words ... Remember the Words are what Sells Real Estate ... Words also dictate the way we think  A Luxurious Appointed  Furnished 10 Room Mansion with 6 Bathrooms with a Fantastic Overlook Glass Enclosed  Patio Room that has a View of Spacious Pool and Well Groomed Estate Lawns and Garden evokes a vision of a Lifestyle of Grandeur  Verses the Poverty of despair makes the Gangs a viable alternative to children in the Ghetto's whereby the money they can make dealing drugs makes them turn to a life of crime ... drugs and crimes are viewed as the inner cities most daunting challenge ... how do we keep our inner city children out of the grasp of these 2 the answer is not a simple one Amazing Facts! Do Accomplish Amazing Feats! What are You Teaching? Now ask Yourself again  do You look around your surroundings and see only despair or self pity? ... Do you see your life as only going downhill or staying as they say only Status Quo? ... Your Life you were born into the level your on ... there will be No Grand Reward! ... There will be No Great Fortune! ... Well if You are then Guess what the Lesson Your Teaching is the Wrong One to Your Child yes even to yourself ... It's Called with a Negative Outlook you only breed contempt ... you teach only despair ... you program your mind to only only accept negative ... time to as we say ... Change Your Attitude Change Your Life ... now is the time to finally say ... Wait a Minute Back Up My Life where did I get off the Path ... Better yet Who have I always Blamed for My Life ... My Dad? My Mom? The Place I was brought up in? Past Relationship? or even ... Hey as they say I am a Victim of My Upbringing  You might be surprised all these years others merely observing your actions have already said " The Problem with You is ... Your Your Own Worst Enemy... You never truly listen " Maybe even this observation a child has made or remarked to you it is so obvious! ...More amazing is you yourself are capable of knowing this in yourself though are afraid to admit it ... called Our Mental State of Mind is not always Healthy Making a List Checking it Twice ... Who Am I As a Parent have you checked yourself to see how this maybe has effected your child throughout their life ... Adult's more then even children should do as they say take a Personal Inventory called make a list of Pro's and Con's about yourself ... it truly is about What Do You Like about Your Self then also honestly ask What is it don't like about yourself ...You might even be amazed Your What You Don't like about Yourself out numbers the What Do side ... Then if honest with self and have Your List have Your Child sit down and do a list on You then compare the lists ... You might even be surprised the observations and lines of Communication can open with your child as things you and your child can work on amazing what a little bit of Teamwork can accomplish and hey for fun make it a 2 way street maybe for an eye awakening have your child do their list and you yourself on them ... amazes a Child how much if truly answer it you know of them or better yet what don't ... might even find your child has a completely opposite outlook on life and will give you a middle ground to work to OK OK OK OK All of the Above is for a Perfect Scenario ... What if My Child is not working or willing to work with me? What Do I do if My Child is beyond control ... Will Not Listen and I have done all the Correct things and still they won't listen? ... The Big Words here are these ... I Love You! ... then fastly followed up by ... I am Only Doing this for Your Safety! ... then finally followed by ... I Hope You Know I Care! You see as we said there should be No Demands for Rewards on raising a child ... the Whats in it for Me ... whereas also if you should have a trouble child who doesn't see your view as a viable alternative to their way of thinking ... You can not also feel Guilty for their chosen choice Sounds a bit like isn't this contrary to popular belief a contradiction to what has been already said ... Let's say No! No! No! ... a child like an adult is capable of making decisions ... whereby if you have instilled Family Values Family Morals is like a rebellion against them to some extent even to as say Argue their point of injustices of being a Child Manipulation and Guilty Feelings is the Only Weapon  Children Teens especially feel they are Adult enough in Mind to make Proper Decisions and when don't get their ways try to manipulate the situation to make you feel Guilty or To Demanding ... Whereby the only validity in their statement is for what they Deem is their ability to obtain what they want or desire the signs to watch for are Impulsive Behavior making constant demands trying to leave the room Spending what think is unique Self Imposed Long hours in isolation in room Spending if Unmonitored countless hours on internet or phone contacting others of like minds to compare notes exchange ideas on their negative state of mind ... never realizing negative will only get negative  all without permission Will present a state of Dress all again thought unique that imitates the worst case scenario of anti social behavior not realizing or even knowing the antagonizing presence presents not only to parents also to others plus even in circles of their peer age ... even startling is the other side being dressed to excess so as to present a value of higher structure what others deem snobbish self centered even selfish ... both can be as demanding for parenting skills ... though not both totally destructive can be seen as a call to get attention or as in the the anti-social dress merely as shock value ... ( No this is not a phase or a mere statement of individuality ... this is not acting as a normal teenager ... this is a call for anti social rebellion if taken to extreme better yet signifying they don't have to listen to you or anyone who is not within their chosen circle ... warning being also should be taken as deeper rooted cause that can be leading to alcohol or drug usage or merely acceptance of those with also negative outlooks or even involved in criminal activity ) Now You maybe are asking doesn't this give me validity to say My Child is a Case to be Committed? ... Does not Society back me with this decision also? ... Again No! No! No! is the Answer ... That is if Your a Positive Thinking Parent! or Guardian The Question should ask Yourself ... what is truly the Deep Seated issue that is troubling your Child or Teen are they asking What or Who am I why can't others merely accept me If from a Divorce does the Missing Parent accept them or even want them What does the Family Offer them aren't Friends who Party more Important What Consequences do they have to Pay for say missing school assignments missing classes missing school or even running away How When or What time does their life change to what they deem it should You see as We have said Parents don't ask for Rewards they ask their Child What is it You Truly want to Be and How are We going to Get You there ... though most importantly it's as said not also about feeling Guilty It's called Teaching Your Child to do the Right Thing also known as Taking Responsibility for their Own Actions ... which sadly a Child or Teen may feel ... They Were Not in the Wrong! ... You Are! ... They will also bring to your attention should be No Rules No Guidelines No Social Restrictions they should have to Pay for Take note also or as will remind You continously ... How am I going to Follow Your Rules when they are constantly changing ... Never seeing if consistant in Parenting ... Guidelines or as Child will call them Your Rules! ... have never and will never change ... to as We have already referred to them as Deemed in Society as Common Rules of Decency ... Common Courtesy ...which we also pointed out also the Term Guidelines should be used instead of the word Rules What Guidelines Should You Follow if Child Runs Away Let's state this and this from Personal Experience ... Do Not We Repeat Do Not Take this Lightly Report Your Child/Teen Missing on 1st Occasion promptly at Curfew Time Report Your Child/Teen Returned though Re-issue a Missing Report each time upon known Run Away again time Notify All Known Parents of Child/Teen that Your Child/Teen associates with so that they are aware Your Child/Teen may be influencing their child to do the same ...this also insures your Child/Teen has 1 less place to go as possible refuge ... also cuts down possibility for Parent/Guardian of called to Harbor or Shelter your Child/Teen also make them aware You will persecute and convict them if found there ... You would be amazed also like a Bounty Hunter this invokes the word to get out about how your Child/Teen is missing ... Will also find your Child/Teen will face embarrassment factor that You truly care ... will find most Child/Teen yours are supposed Friends with how quickly they will not want to be associated as Friends ... Hard Facts are usually Self Evident to who your Child/Teen is associating with ... Party Kids run the fastest as do Alcohol and Drug users ... The Good Parents and Child/Teen will reveal themselves and will not be offended Statements made because can see Your a Concerned Parent/Guardian Do Not be Afraid to Confront Your Child/Teen on a Phone Call if Call Home ... Guilt is reason calling and usually to satisfy in their mind they showed care ... The Excuse Given so as to maybe also get out of ... Doing the Right Thing ... which will use trust us upon returning home ... Well I Did Call Home Don't You Remember? ... We recommend Keep a Clear Head take Note of Words being said Your Child/Teen will reveal Fears regarding returning home ...follow  this as said ... The Big Words here are these ... I Love You! ... then fastly followed up by ... I am Only Doing this for Your Safety! ... then finally followed by ... I Hope You Know I Care! that is how every call should end Do Not Also be Afraid to Follow what Sheriff or Police recommend as a Procedures to Follow there is what call an In House Detention Arrest whereby a Minor Child can be Held for a Period of time to Evaluate their State of Mind in a Juvenile Facility ... this even though scary in thought and may seem to alienate your Child/Teen make them aware you have taken action to cover not only them for a Safe Return Home but also protect yourself against possible future Civil Liabilty in case something tragic happens to them ...be aware also Procedures also are enforced to protect Law Enforcement Agencies ... You will be asked to Release Permission to Information regarding your Child/Teen so do not be offended questions asked Truth be known your Child/Teen will be picked up only usually for Curfew Violations or if causing a Civil Disturbance or caught Stealing and as more time away from Home the more the possibilty for this to happen ...Curfew Violations as well as Stealing are the Major Causes for Sheriff and Police intervention ...the latter Stealing also why most Run Away Teens face incarceration in a Juvenile Facility Harsh Reality once a Child Runs away the Possibility is Will Do Again You see once a child feels empowered that they know the ins and outs of running away or find haven't been caught by Sheriffs or Police  they will find ways to start what they feel is an argument as a way to say Ok there is my excuse to run away... They then will act merely on impulse thinking and justify their running away ... the person of course will be you as the scape goat ... usually fact being known is for Self Gratification such as to meet friends and do what you have said should not be done. Do not take for granted your Child/Teen is merely innocent. Also do not assume it is another Child/Teen whose influenced this decision though facts be known if your Child/Teen is meeting with others it is far more then mere curiousity on repeated run away frequency. A very harsh reality is also, not all Run aways do return. Your Child/Teen might just become the next statistic of a Sexual Predator or Face a Life of Crime due to their own choice as well as become a Alcohol or Drug User. This fact is a Daily occurance happening no matter how good a parent you are. No matter how good your Home or School District may be... as the saying goes ... " Prepare for the Worst but also Never Give Up Hope " ...also remember the pre-cautionary advice Your Child/Teen Might be as this Article began "I Never thought My Child would turn out like this!" You May being asking ... Well if You can not give Hope why is this written? The Simple Fact this is written is ... Never did We feel that yes Sooz Daughter Linds would ever run away, though she did get caught up in the Glamorized version from her own friends about how cool it was to Run Away ... The Simple facts being known are ... It truly is about the Kids telling her these stories not having a True Family Life could she join them so they could talk ... It was never truly about being Cool it was about Making a Joke of Parents too busy to notice or even pick up a Phone to Call or ask for Permission to be at their House (Truth also be known are Parents who will Harbor or Hide your Child/Teen as their own rebellion or own ignorance of laws even believing a child/teen giving them what seems a plausible explanation for being there a Bad Family Life so as try to protect them ) not truely knowing or aware also so Linds and Others could laugh at these Parents or better yet using Friends who don't know the True Fact that she lives in a Home well provided for which can be seen and is publicly displayed on the internet. Adrenaline Rushes and Cut to the Chase Scenes Why is this also written Linds feels maybe as well as others is a thrill maybe even taunting the Sheriff and Police to catch them ... Linds has though denies it been warned not only by a Sheriff's Deputy Call to Her Cell Phone when ran away she should Return Home ... She also was at School by the On Campus Sheriff's Deputy told same words to that same effect ... Linds reaction Contrary to Popular Belief is She truly is afraid of being Picked up or Arrested ...then in a Flash will tell You never happened. She is Cool. Facts be known there are Consequences You see She has pushed this to extent she is merely on as they say Thin Ice ... 2 steps away from going to Juvenile Hall to straighten up her attitude ... Who Told her? How about Her Counselor Her Guidance Guide the Dean The Vice Principle though 1st was Her Mom Her Step Dad ...as was also the Court Decision against her Own Dad (Visitation Removed except Supervised in Kern County 2nd and 4th Weekend for 8 hours which has not even Visited since the Ruling May 23rd 2006 ... this a Big Reason why Linds is also rebellious Her Dad sends a message He will not do or furnish a Clean Drug or Alcohol test to provide his true intent then resubmit to Courts his intent so as to have Un Supervised Visitation with her ) Linds stating before 1st time running away Her Dad said if didn't like it there Run away and come Live with Him ... as stated ... doesn't look like Great Fatherly advice though denies ever said it ... Fact be known Linds may have used Her Own Dad as justification to Run Away to truly see as his own Childhood boasted of what was all about Running Away also as now does lives just this side of Homeless No Permanent Home Address No Proven Income not even Child Support is being paid is the Message sends. This also as an example for things Linds has always disliked about her Dad She has truly become ... Stubborn ... Incoherent to Simple Logic or Following Simple Directions... Lacking what can be Viewed Common Sense ... Acting Irrationally ... even Linds own Dad admits he has never acted like Linds with Her Attitude her Running away has even Now Hit Him Hard what is going to be Linds Future Linds also Not seeing the Revelation even with Bad Grades Bad Attendence nor Ignoring doing the Same things got her Suspended for 2 Months till came up for Review in December 2006 ... Also was not evident to Linds till the Dean and Her Own Mom agreed was time for Linds to attend an Alternative High School because Linds as Well as Her Mom signed an Agreement Linds would not come before the Dean again for Charges of as simple as Passing Notes in Class ... You see Linds with Her own actions didn't even give her Mom any longer Motive  or Argument to Defend her own daughter ... she not only violated the Agreement it was also in a Manner showing another Girl what is Deemed a Subversive Sign in again another Passed Note ... Comparing the Sign as Linds drew it as Linds also said the Other Girl was incapable of herself Drawing it the Note was being passed ... Linds also in 1st communication with Girl asking what it was ... it was also written on Her Hand admittedly by Linds 2 days before by a Supposed Friend ... Linds knowing herself is neither allowed by Her Mom or Step Dad it was worn with Definance once again Catch Me if You can ... better yet Linds would have You believe was not written there by herself is why she forgot Linds has No excuse for Running away ... Linds has been told ... What should truly do ... It truly is not about being a Normal Kid if sneaking off to even smoke or do alcohol and drugs ... She truly was not thinking rationally whereby having supposed 1st time sex embarrassed Linds when had to be checked for STD's and Possible Pregnancy ... Linds can not wear this as a Gee I Am a Good Person Badge ... Her also was above everyone else attitude is also Gone  ... This also not as a put down it is a fact Not Only with a Boy as sorry to say Not to much Intelligence or even Good Looking ... even His Mom was embarrassed by her Own Son's way others view him plus his running away also his own excuses he has also like Linds compounded his own downfall ...yes all in less then a 3 months time ...though both have been heading this way for a while neither has seen its coming ... or lets say truly heeded anyones warning It's Not about Normal it's about Shocking Others   No Linds is Not an Angel she has a penchant for shocking others ... her own Intelligence Her Own Meanness questioned by others also as well as her own Sexual Promiscuity ... Truth be known All of Linds Family as well as Friends of Family are embarrassed though lovingly waiting for what is now known truly as it's Not a Passing Phase in Linds Life ... Linds has willingly Chosen the Path She has taken and there are No Excuses unless forth coming from Linds herself ... Self Denial and Blaming Others might come 1st ... You see it is Linds Only Herself who can Return and become the Loving Person she truly is ... she still has Hope she still has those willing to Help her Linds has always had a Loving Caring Relations given to her by Us Not as a put down on Linds Sooz talked numerous times to her about these issues ... Not as a Shock Value this is merely a documentation of things that can or will happen if listening to others ... Each a Story of their Own ... 2 of the Friends already are or have been in Juvenile Hall just in the past 2 weeks 1 arrested for Armed Robbery the 2nd for Evading the Police ... Truth also be told the Friends Linds has chosen as purported Friends all have also been Expelled from School as well as Linds herself has ... merely from what concept or idea  what are they?... Called Stubbornness ... Called Not having Yourself under Control ... It's also acting Impulsively with No Regard to Consequences The Great Escape or Stupid Justification How does this as this is written end?  on 03/30/2007 Linds in her Impulsive behavior and wanting to be Selfish and attend a Teens Easter Spring Break Party (YES a Alcohol and Drug party rumored) this one day after being expelled from School only reason to again escape from what she deems and tells others is an overbearing  home life because is requested wait till is 16 to Date or even possibly go to Parties decides to pick as she deems in her mind an argument to justify her soon to be escape not realizing as been told a 100 times will not be allowed and true reasons wise The route chosen be as previously agreed on be dropped at School to monentarily get her purse and a Book another Girl says she has ... whereby shielded from view jumps on a School Bus that is leaving ... as the 1st 2 Buses leaves it automaticly comes to both of Us Linds once again is on the Run ... later a call is received I am Safe and also she knew she would not be allowed to go so decided to do what she did The Failure Linds has in Judgement and Understanding ... No Parent Guardian Family Member or Friend would allow this also ... It is truly called When a Parent Cares they will do anything to Protect and Keep their Child Safe ... even in a Step Father/Mother situation if a Person cares the Child/Teen such as Linds do know what is right and wrong ...this also being the Home Linds lives in ... it is only truly when a Child/Teen cares about themself that they make the proper decisions and act as an Responsible Adult would ... Linds though as already mentioned chose to make the wrong decision, No One else. Where does this leave us? It is true that there is someone every kid knows who taunts the laws, challenges authorities including parents, teachers and the law. There's no rhyme or reason as to how out of 6 reasonable kids one has to choose self destruction. As parents or the responsible party we want to blame ourselves for the condition of our kids, their choices and if applicable lack of positive direction. Within this guilt though we may be enabling these kids. Our own guilt, and added attempts to cover up this kids actions, hide them from their own ugly life and keep them from experiencing the hardships caused by their bad choices may easily hurt them more in the long run. In other words what they need is straight talk about exactly where they are headed with this behavior. They need examples. They need to hear it from the Sherriff, the Dean, the adults who are incarcerated due to their lives of crime from a young age...the homeless, the kids with no Mom and Dad...no home.   ®JerSooz Enterprises 2007